Jutta – The Mother-In-law

Jutta Engelhardt and John Wise at Jessop's Tavern in New Castle, Delaware

Back for her 7th trip to America, my mother-in-law Jutta Engelhardt finally landed and found her way out of Philadelphia airport. I flew into Baltimore, picked up a rental car, and drove north to Philly. Typically, my mother-in-law and I spend some part of her vacation on a ‘son-in-law/mother-in-law’ trip, and this one would be no different, except this time, it was placed at the beginning of our journey. Actually, it was a strategy to cut down on the jetlag she experiences after traveling 20 or so hours to get to Arizona. By flying to Philadelphia on a non-stop from Frankfurt, Germany, she flew a brief 9 hours before touchdown.

Jutta Engelhardt sitting down for dinner at Jessop's Tavern in New Castle, Delaware

After fetching her bags, we loaded up the car and drove southwest to New Castle, Delaware, for dinner at the historic Jessop’s Tavern.

New Castle, Delaware

After leaving this old town founded in 1683, we made our way to St. Michaels on the Chesapeake Bay where we’ll spend the next three evenings before meeting up with Caroline.

Daughter

Jessica Aldridge

A few days ago my daughter Jessica called while approaching Texas on a drive across America and reminded me that she was soon to arrive in Phoenix. Funny how these little things slip the mind. Really, tomorrow? Uh, aren’t you going to visit your mom first? I’ll stop there on the way back to Florida, ok. After nearly four years my progeny was stopping in. I know it seems like a long time not visiting one’s child but she’d been busy with the Navy, getting out of the Navy, getting married, working, and generally trying to find her own person while living in Virginia Beach, Virginia.

Her husband had some training in San Diego to tend to along with about six weeks of vacation before reporting to his new duty station in Florida, so Jessica hopped into the Hyundai with Sparky the Dog and tried driving non-stop across the United States. She nearly made it, too, but sleep overtook her in Texas.

As the hours of her arrival shortened, my nerves began to fray. Oh my god, what should I expect? Does she have facial tattoos, piercings, brands, does she smoke, drink, do drugs du jour? Nope, none of the above. OK, an occasional drink but other than that she could almost be considered old-fashioned normal. Pride arose in me. Maybe I wouldn’t have to work to make her uncomfortable so she’d leave before she got situated. Instead, we began enjoying the conversation and catching up with what transpired over the intervening years. We got along so well it looked like she might even stay two days in Phoenix.

The second day gave way to a third, a fourth, and a fifth. We visited Rinku and Yagnesh who were soon to be married and had dinner with them. We visited Tonopah Rob’s farm and had lunch with Rob and Jerry. Jessica requested we have pani puri on one of the nights of her visit, an Indian snack she’d enjoyed on a previous visit. We looked at our travel photos, talked about some of the books she was going to borrow from my library, and she listened to a lot of the music Caroline and I have in our collection. Before she left I drew up an itinerary for her and Caleb, her husband, to take as they finished up in San Diego.

The plan called for them to drive up the California coast to Monterey, passing through San Francisco, visit the Muir Woods, continue north through Pt. Reyes on to the Redwoods before going to Oregon and taking a jet boat up the Rogue River. After visiting Oregon they would spend time with Caleb’s family in Montana and then drop into Yellowstone before staying one night in a tent cabin in the Grand Teton National Park. Their road trip would continue south through Utah into Mexican Hat, Monument Valley, across Four Corners into New Mexico, and then Texas for a visit with Jessica’s mother – Sheila.

It was so nice visiting with her, playing with Sparky, and talking with Caleb on the phone. Unfortunately, I’ve not had the chance to meet him yet, but from those who have it seems I’ll be honored to meet the guy, he made a terrific impression on my great aunt and uncle in Santa Barbara who they dropped in on as they drove north in California. Caroline and I are hoping to visit Jessica and meet the son-in-law over Thanksgiving this year as we are planning on being in Georgia over the holiday. I dare say, my daughter has the potential to do well, my fingers are crossed.

Surfing

Dolphins surfing the waves south of Santa Barbara, California

Driving south out of Santa Barbara, I told Caroline to put down what she was doing and look out the window as, with only 20 minutes of ocean view out of the 8 hours of driving back to Arizona, she needed to be on the lookout for dolphins and whales. There must have been a whisper in my ear because, within minutes, we were pulling over to watch more than half a dozen dolphins swimming along the shoreline and surfing the waves. We did not fare as well in the whale-watching department but were thrilled to watch the dolphins and even the sea lion that showed up.

South of Santa Barbara on Highway 101

Then it was back on the road for a beautiful spring drive out of the greenery of Southern California and all the ugly traffic, but that’s the way it is over here.

California Desert off Interstate 10

Into the California desert as we pass through the Palm Springs area over to Blythe.

Arizona sunset on the 10 freeway

Back in Arizona, we catch a glimmer of the sunset before heading east once again into the darkness.

Doing Fine

Woody Burns at 84 years old in Santa Barbara, California

Having spent three months helping my uncle Woody Burns get back on his feet after a fall that broke his hip, I couldn’t be sure how we’d find him this weekend after our 5-month absence. In fact, he is doing better than ever. Prior to his hip-breaking fall, my uncle had been on a heavy dose of pain medication for a back injury that ultimately required extensive surgery, creating more pain than it alleviated. While he now uses a walker for getting around, he is more sure-footed today than I had seen him in the previous years, which in part I attribute to being off the pain meds. The intervening five months were too long a break in our otherwise regular visits that my great aunt and uncle had become accustomed to expecting every 60 to 90 days – we’ll return with my mother-in-law in tow in early June.

Driving Into The Sunset

Late afternoon going into early evening on the 10 freeway driving west

On our way to Santa Barbara, California, for the weekend, we were able to get out of Phoenix near midday but were not fast enough to glimpse a view of the ocean before dark. High winds and rain pummeled us just before leaving Arizona and crossing over the Colorado River into SoCal, but from there on, we were treated to beautiful, cool, clear weather for the rest of the weekend.