Christmas With The Chans

Elizabeth and Alfred Chan owners of Little Rangoon Taste of Burma

From China King in Chandler to Szechuan Palace in Phoenix over to Totties Asian Fusion in Scottsdale today on Christmas day, we have had the opportunity over the last couple of months to try some new foods. These are our guides on our path into Dim Sum and more traditional Chinese food: they are owners of Little Rangoon – Taste of Burma restaurant. They are Alfred and Elizabeth Chan. Most of our time with the Chans who are from Burma has been as diners at their restaurant. On the rare occasion that their own restaurant is closed such as on a holiday, we have been able to join them for lunch such as on Thanksgiving and now today on Christmas. Sadly, I don’t foresee another holiday coming up any time soon, but, since their restaurant is closed on Mondays I have met them a couple of times then. Today, Caroline and I visited Totties with Alfred, Elizabeth, and their daughter Rosalind and were treated to more than a half dozen items prepared by Tottie herself for us to sample, along with a dessert sampler tray of nine different ice-creams and a kabocha squash custard – all was yummy. Our thanks go to Tottie and her family for welcoming us to such an opulent treat today.

Over the past few years, we have met some great people including Sonal Patel and her immediate family along with her extended family which seems to be nearly every other Hindu in the Phoenix area. We have enjoyed our time shared with Rob and Jerry out at Tonopah Rob’s Vegetable Farm as we do the rare moments with an old friend down in Tucson, Arturo Silva. Recently a Turkish friend and his German girlfriend stepped back into our lives for a short few days – how we wish we had far more time to spend with these two. But this is our problem with these people who we come to enjoy being with, we have too little time to divide our attention among these really wonderful friends but would like to let them know how much we appreciate this rare ability to laugh with one another.

On Monday, the Chans and I will be meeting for lunch again, hopefully at Great Wall Cuisine on Camelback in Phoenix and then going to Alfred and Elizabeth’s to watch part of the original Chinese five-hour version of Red Cliff with Tony Leung (one of Caroline’s favorite Chinese actors, the other is Andy Lau). So, Sonal, if you are reading this, when are we going out on a Monday when your shop is closed?

Engagement

Rachna Patel on the day of her engagement to Niral Patel in Phoenix, Arizona

On Saturday morning we arose early and drove around the block to Suru and Anju Patel’s so I could begin taking photos of their daughter as she prepared for her engagement later in the morning. It was about five years ago we went to our first Hindu wedding when their older daughter Alka was married. Today, though, it was Rachna’s turn at beginning the process of moving towards marriage. The engagement ceremony was held at her fiance’s parent’s home. Dinesh and Panna welcomed about 40 friends and family to witness Niral and Rachna become engaged. Mrs. Rajaguru presided over the formalities, she is Kushbu and Shital’s mom and it was Kushbu who was the second engagement we attended. After the ceremony, we took a short drive to a local clubhouse for a reception with approximately 75 guests invited for this part of the day’s activities. Lunch was catered by a local temple that prepared undhiyu (a favorite of mine), tindoora, rice, puris, and one of my other favorites, shrikhand, for dessert. Sonal’s daughters Kushbu and Hemu performed a dance number with Satchi and Poorvi as a small entertainment moment in between speeches given to honor Rachna and Niral – the two are to be wed next fall.

Taner and Verena

Taner and Verena from Berlin, Germany visiting John and Caroline Wise in Phoenix, Arizona

After a sixteen-year gap in communication, where not a word is spoken, an email exchanged, or a phone call made, it might be more typical that two once compatible personas have grown apart and, upon meeting that long lost friend, the spark that once brought the friendship to bear is simply no longer there. A week ago after an anonymous nearly cryptic email challenged us to remember someone from our past we learned that Taner would be visiting the United States and he would be traveling with his girlfriend Verena.

Last night, after arriving in Las Vegas a few days earlier from Berlin, Germany, Taner and Verena were knocking at our door. Would we like Verena? We know German women and they are typically tight-lipped and not easily amused. Would we still like Taner’s company? Caroline’s and my life is greatly different from our bohemian, decadent, hedonistic, and self-indulgent days when we lived in Frankfurt. Who would Taner be after all these years, a button-down business guy, an elitist art snob, a junkie? As they pass through our door and polite handshakes and hugs are exchanged I need a few minutes to stare into Taner’s face to find him behind the greying hair and beard. Meanwhile, Caroline gets busy talking with Verena. The chemistry is still there. Sixteen years of time are compressed and erased. We are about to find common ground that will likely rewarm a long-dormant friendship. As our talk extends into the late night, Caroline and Verena laugh while Taner and I reminisce and talk about our move to Phoenix and his to Berlin. They leave around 1:30 a.m.

Early in the morning, we get together again to continue where we left off just hours before. With time short as I understand the necessity to get on the road no matter how wonderful it might be to find yourself back with an old friend where one can’t help but wish there was more time available than reality is dictating, we get in the car and onto the road so I can give Taner and Verena a small sense about the city we live in. Our first stop is at Tonopah Rob’s farm. Coming from Berlin I felt they would appreciate the surreality of farming in the desert and I wanted them to meet Rob’s turkeys which I was fairly certain these two would never have seen before. Having not eaten breakfast these two were hungry by early afternoon and were wanting the best hamburger I knew of. Claim Jumper won out over In-N-Out with the Widowmaker burger being ordered for both Taner and Verena who said it was the best burger they’d ever had. I couldn’t disagree, it’s my favorite too.

After lunch, we picked up Caroline and drove to a local Walmart for them to witness our American consumption a la Gargantua. The patrons of Walmart in all their glorious peculiarities didn’t miss a beat in earning the awkward stares of tourists in shock at how extreme not only the variety offered on the store shelves are but the diversity of strangely clad obese people driving rascals through the autobahn wide isles of America’s shopping behemoth can be. From Walmart, it was a drive across Phoenix to Lee Lee’s Oriental Market. The colors, packaging, and exotic new products were too much for Taner who was soon armed with Caroline’s camera so he might be more discreet in capturing the fish heads, neon, and brightly packaged foodstuffs without having a store worker asking him to leave. As the theme seemed to be working we once more got in the car and this time drove to Ranch Market on Roosevelt Street.

Ranch Market is a Mexican grocery with blaring music, fluorescently bright pink, yellow, and green cakes, and entire cow heads on display in the meat counter. Our first stop was at the aqua Frescas counter to buy a horchata (rice milk), jamaica (hibiscus), Sandia (watermelon), and a limonade. We walked by the prepared hot foods, the tortilla makers in the corner, and inspected the chicharrones (fried pig skins), mountains of chili peppers in various shapes and sizes, coconuts, tamarinds, and nopales (cactus). Caroline and Verena wandered one way, Taner and I the other – this was better than nightclubbing. After Taner shot a few dozen photos a very polite security officer informed us that one or two photos were ok but that we should put the camera away.

Dinner for Caroline and I was at Lone Star Steakhouse, Taner and Verena were still full from the burger. Back at our apartment, Taner and I tried to work out a loose itinerary they might use as inspiration for the rest of their three-week American southwest vacation. We talked and planned until nearly three in the morning before we pushed them out to their hotel. In the morning I made a breakfast of potatoes, eggs, and bacon for the four of us, packed them an ice chest with frozen mango, walnuts, almonds, dried apple rings, dried apricots, and some other assorted snacks, then armed them with road maps before printing the itinerary with a few last-minute changes and, finally, encouraging these two to get going on their road trip that might take them to Monument Valley, Moab, across Nevada, into Oregon, the Redwoods, San Francisco, and back to Vegas. We had a blast visiting with Taner and Verena and sincerely hope that we’ll see these two again much sooner than later. How very perfect this last forty-eight hours have been – thanks Taner and Verena for including us in your travels.

A Hindu Wedding – Day 2

Yagnesh Rajnikant Damania getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

Things at a Hindu wedding are not so simple as getting dressed in your best clothes, there is the community preparation part that draws out a lot of laughter. From various prayers, joinings, sweets, a coconut, this milk and turmeric washing, to dances welcoming the bride and groom after they’ve gotten dressed in their wedding clothes, these events have many moving parts that rely on friends and family to help organize everything.

Rinku Shah getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

And then the ceremony begins with many rituals, prayers, and symbolic offerings to usher in a life of happiness.

Yagnesh Rajnikant Damania and Rinku Shah getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

And then they are man and wife!

Jutta Engelhardt at Rinku's wedding in Phoenix, Arizona

With my mother-in-law Jutta still in America, the Shah family extended the invitation to her and helped supply her with clothes appropriate for the day.

Caroline Wise at Rinku's wedding in Phoenix, Arizona

My wife is sooo hot.

A Hindu Wedding – Day 1

Rinku Shah the day before getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

This is Rinku Shah on a day of immense celebration and simultaneous tragedy. Today is the day before she’s getting married but it’s also a difficult moment because her father passed away not long ago. The photo she’s holding is one I took from a previous get-together that she insists is the greatest picture of her father ever taken, what an honor.

Rinku’s mom, her name is Kusum. The responsibility on this woman’s shoulders is immense as the planning of festivities and hosting the many family members and friends at a Hindu wedding should not be underestimated.

Rinku Shah the day before getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

Rinku asked me months ago that I should be her wedding photographer, I tried to talk her out of it as I’m not a photographer of people but of landscapes. She persisted and I obviously relented. I’ve never been so nervous photographing anything before.

I think I was fortunate in getting at least a few images that I’d be proud to have with me into the future that helped define the day, these are a few of the photos I stumbled into the day before the official ceremony.

Rinku Shah and Yagnesh Rajnikant Damania the day before getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

Rinku’s soon-to-be husband, Yagnesh Rajnikant Damania.

Rinku Shah the day before getting married in Phoenix, Arizona

Over the two days I shot more than 2,500 photos that included variations of the couple, family, and combinations of everyone and delivered the best 888 that I took, they wanted them all.

Dion & Tassia

Dion Terry and his girlfriend Tassia visiting Phoenix, Arizona

After many a year not being able to visit with one another as every time Dion would visit Phoenix, Caroline and I were on a road trip, we had the chance this evening to sit down for dinner and catch up. All those years Dion would visit on long holiday weekends, the very same long weekends that offer us great opportunities for travel. And, unfortunately, our destination so far has never been San Diego where Dion lives, as nature is our draw. Dion and his girlfriend Tassia were on a short road trip of their own this time, only stopping in Phoenix to say a quick hello to friends and family before continuing on to Gallup, New Mexico, Window Rock, Arizona, and other points on the Navajo Reservation from which Dion hails. Though we only had a short three hours to talk it was nonetheless nothing short of wonderful to see this old friend. While not traveling Dion practices the starving artist routine, check out his blog MuttonDagger.